Here is my contribution to this week’s Share Your World from Sparks
What is the meaning of true love?
True love can start with wine and roses but it doesn’t go on that way. I believe we’re talking about romantic love here? When I met my current husband I was not sure that he was ‘the one’ but he was so amazingly nice to me that after a couple of weeks dating I fell in love. We both had kids from previous marriages so it was complicated. However, we married and lived ‘happily ever after,’ In spite of our ups and downs I can honestly say that I have had a brilliantly happy marriage. We made a decision to love each other forever. It doesn’t just happen. You have to work at it. There were times when I would gladly have walked out and I’m sure he would have too. But we worked it out. We were honest with each other and the uppermost thing for each of us was to try to make the other happy. We met 37 years ago and if this is not true love I don’t know what is. We have been through stuff that would have driven others apart but it only drew us closer together. I believe that if you can survive hardship together then nothing can drive you apart. I have definitely found TRUE LOVE
Do acts of kindness have a motive?
I think sometimes they do. But usually not.
I know plenty of people who do acts of kindness to score points so they can call in a favour.
I have taught my children that there are two types of people – the givers and the takers. We, I tell them, are the givers. Don’t ever do a favour if you want it returned. Do it out of the kindness of your heart and also learn to say, no, if your kindness is going to harm you. If you lend money – kiss it goodbye. If you’re repaid, fine – if not it’s okay – you lent the money to help someone who needed it more than you did.
I love the concept of paying it forward – it works. Do a kind deed and it will be passed on to somebody else and one day it may just come back to you too.
A funny story – My hubby who is the most generous person in the world was once dithering at the check out in a supermarket. He was not dressed in his most attractive clothes. In fact, he could have been mistaken for a homeless man! Well the man behind him saw him scratching in his wallet to find the correct cash and thought – Poor old man – he can’t really afford these groceries – and before he could protest paid the bill for both his and hubby’s purchases and rushed off! The Earl was hugely embarrassed but of course, paid it forward sometime later himself!
If we live in a civilized world why do we see so many distinctions between rich and poor?
I just don’t know! We need to be charitable to lessen the burden of the poor. We live in an imperfect world. In some countries, there is more poverty than in others but quite honestly it’s horrific.
Education should be the priority in order to help even the most indigent to better their situation.
Do we love ourselves more in the virtual world than in the real world?
I’m not sure. Some people might try to look better in the virtual world but they still have the same feelings. Loving ourselves comes from within. If we accept ourselves the way we are, we will love ourselves both in cyberspace and in the real world.
Are you grateful?
Yes, I am grateful. I am grateful for my family, friends, health and lifestyle. I am very lucky to be me.