Here are my answers to this week’s Share Your World from Sparks.
Where do you feel most at home? Please be more specific than “at home, doh” please. It could be a room in your home, a person, a location…
I really like this question because there are lots of places where I feel at home. There are also many places where I don’t feel at home and it’s all to do with the people and the atmosphere in these places. I instinctively know when I am not welcome. I feel ‘bad’ vibes in places and can’t wait to get away from such environments. There are people who I know well yet I still don’t feel comfortable in their homes. Then there are plenty of places where I feel relaxed and totally at home. I feel at home wherever my family is even though there are times we don’t get on. That doesn’t seem to make a difference at all. In my family we are all totally welcome in each other’s homes. There have been times that I have found myself in a total stranger’s house and yet felt completely welcome and at home because that stranger is a kindred spirit.
Then there are the places that are really special that have nothing to do with four walls. The moment I enter the Kruger National Park, I feel completely at home. Being there is good for my soul. It’s my happy place and no other place can compare. I love my own home, I love Struisbaai and I feel totally at home when visiting Cape Town where I grew up but nothing compares to the absolute joy I experience when I reside in my caravan in The Kruger National Park!
Would you rather ride a bike, ride a horse, or drive a car?
I used to enjoy riding a bike but I’ve given it up. I can’t risk falling off anymore. Horse riding was also fun and I did ride a few times as a child and then again as an adult. My most memorable ride was galloping down a Wild Coast beach on a hired steed with a horse-riding friend of mine. I was forty years old and have never ridden since.
So I suppose I will have to choose the last one even though I seldom do that anymore either! The Earl does most of the driving and I don’t even own a car anymore.
What song would you sing on “Karaoke Night” (if you were forced to do so)?
The Earl and I have two songs – Lady in Red – which he can sing at the Karaoke night and The Power of Love which I’ll take. I am not a singer but I think I could lipsync convincingly.
University or life experience, which do you feel best prepares you for life?
Definitely life experience. Of course university is useful but plenty of people get by and do very well without a degree or a diploma. I believe a work ethic is far more important. I also know plenty of well-educated people who have not done much in their lives. Then there are those who have been hugely successful in spite of poor beginnings. I definitely admire people who just get out there and do things without making excuses. Also people who’ve had it tough in life tend to make good in the end. I think of people in my own family who have made things happen for themselves without depending on their parents or grandparents . Too many people blame their circumstances for their lack of success. Having a dream is all very well and I certainly encourage people to go for it. But if for some reason you can’t achieve it then for heaven’s sake find something else to do. There is also nothing wrong with not having an unrealistic dream. We also need ordinary people to do ordinary things. Stand out if you can otherwise fit in and get on with it.
IT’S AN ATTITUDE – GRATITUDE! (Participation Always Optional Of Course)
What are you grateful for?
Funny you should ask. The Earl and I were going through old photographs. What memories they conjured up and looking back we realised how lucky we are to have had a variety of amazing experiences in our lives. We found a little card from our grandson which read, Grandpa, you didn’t ask for a grandchild like me – you just got lucky!
Yes indeed we are very lucky and we wouldn’t change a thing.