Here are my answers to this week’s Share Your World from Sparks
Is it necessary to trust someone you like? (friends, acquaintances or co-workers with whom you have no familial ties)
It all depends on what you are trusting them with. You can like a person you don’t trust and you can trust a person you don’t like. For example I employ a young man in my garden and he does an amazing job but he needs careful supervision because of an addiction problem he has. I like him but I don’t trust him. There are plenty of people I like very much but I can’t depend on them to perform the smallest task. Then there are those who would give up their lives for me and I can trust them completely. Sometimes we need to trust people we don’t like. You might not like a hard-hearted surgeon with a horrible bedside manner that but he is excellent at his job so you have to trust him in order to live.
Do you hold grudges? What do you do when someone really irritates you?
No. I move on. But that does not mean I have anything to do with a person who has wronged me. I cut toxic people out of my life and completely forget about them.
I think I handle irritating people properly but apparently I don’t. Once, at one of those ‘wildlife rescue places’, the guide was trying to convince the tourists that it was not cruel to keep animals in captivity. I asked a few questions, very politely I thought, but afterwards my grandkids said my contempt was obvious. Really? Me contemptuous? Never!
What’s the most sensible thing you’ve heard someone say?
Don’t worry about the things you cannot change.
Is crying a sign of weakness or strength in adults?
Crying is an expression of emotion. What brings some to tears might not have the same effect on others. It should never be seen as weakness when somebody cries. The best thing to do when somebody cries is to cry along with them.
GRATITUDE SECTION (Always Optional)
What small things were you grateful for this week?
I am also grateful that I live in this wonderful place at the tip of Africa where even the stingrays come to visit.