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A Judge Decided by Helen Fenwick

The Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction Act of 1996 is a unilateral treaty which seeks to protect children from the harmful effects of abduction and retention across international borders. Its main objective is to enforce rights of custody over a child or children who have been wrongfully removed or kept in a foreign country in breach of those rights and to secure their prompt return to the country where the child or children habitually reside.

In the story I have written a judge must decide the future of two very young boys caught up in the complications of this law.

In our modern world divorce is a reality for many couples. But when one parent is in one country and the other in another sharing custody of the children can become the focus of a bitter battle. Who ought to have the children? Should it automatically be the mother? Why not, the good father?

”A Judge Decided” is a fictionalised story based on some true events.

It is available for purchase from Eloise of Sonopuitgewers for R250,00 plus shipping. If you wish to purchase a copy, please email her with your details and she will quote you the final price.

Contact me @ fenwickh@jebomail.co.za




Child custody – a topic often avoided, but when discussed, one that inevitably leads to heated debate; a controversial subject since King Solomon and his verdict on the rightful custodian of the disputed child.

Families are known, not only to divide, but to split because of the issue of child custody. Now Helen Fenwick examines in depth this contentious topic in her gripping new book, A judge Decided.

Written with circumspection and great sensitivity, Fenwick deftly interweaves other underlying issues of parent separation and third party involvement.

A Judge Decided is not only a remarkable legal case study based on true events, it exposes the human face of the dramatis personae in a deteriorating relationship.  In her groundbreaking work, Fenwick casts the reader into the roles of parents and children alike –  the latter caught between two counter poles. Central to the sub-plot of a husband substituting his loyal wife for another woman, is the presence of a mother pining for her children.

Written in the present tense, the book is refreshingly candid and characterised by  rare-found honesty, expressed in engaging dialogue between the characters.

Always hovering in the background, in another dimension,  is Leigh’s mother – her spirit guide who acts as mentor and counselor. Carey appears in the form of a bird – a heron, a sparrow, an owl –  to comfort both Leigh and Penny.

The author successfully portrays and explains bewilderingly legal issues, such as custody of the central character’s children in a disarmingly honest way. Her style is loose and pragmatic, and she paints her narrative in a flowing and easy way.  Enshrined in  the issue of custody, is The Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction, Act 72 of 1996. Helen Fenwick not only untangles this complex legal web, but presents it to the critical reader in a palatable and credible way.  

At the risk of spoiling the reader’s potential enjoyment of this excellent work, I shall restrict myself to saying that the tension builds up palpably up to the point where the judge finally has to give his verdict. Will the forces of good prevail?

The print and layout is pleasing and attractive and Eloise Krige’s Sonop Uitgewers deserves a commendation for a job well done.

In conclusion:  A book dealing with the topic of A Judge Decided is long overdue and will be thoroughly appreciated by parents and individuals of all ages world-wide. Rating: *****

Richtersveld Wilderness Camp

Sunday 25 September 2022

It was a lovely, warm and sunny day today. We spent the day enjoying the camp. There are a variety of birds to watch and Earl did a spot of fishing. We saw lots of fish jumping but they stubbornly refused to bite.

Never happier than with a rod in his hand
Mountain Wheatear
Mountain Wheatear
Familiar Chat
Common Waxbill
Cape Wagtail
White-fronted Bee-Eater
Cape Bunting
A family of Egyptian Geese

Some river rafters came by which was lovely to see. There were young couples, parents with kids and older folk too. They all seemed to be having a lot of fun. I shouted out to one of the guides who told me they were on a three-day paddle.

A guide transporting the supplies
To make up for not braaing on Heritage Day we had one this evening.

Monday 26 September 2022 Exploring the Richtersveld

Today we braved the very rough roads of the Richtersveld. We wanted to find the Petroglyphs and were successful in our quest. We enjoyed the dramatic scenery too. The highlight was seeing the cairns that so many tourists to the area have built. Cathy and I also built one each but she was far more skillful than I!

Construction workers hut? Nothing else in sight
A single shack in a very harsh environment

It was sad to see that both the Petroglyphs that we stopped to look at were covered with graffiti. It is beyond belief that modern man would want to deface something dating back from prehistoric times.

A sign asking people to show some respect
Many centuries ago this was beaten out with a sharp rock
Amazing colours
There were thousands of these cairns all over the landscape
It was an amazing sight
Cathy’s cairn
The Earl thought he could be a cairn
We found this interesting bug – no idea what it is

In spite of it being a very harsh environment, the Richtersveld is dramatically beautiful. It was a worthwhile visit which we all very much enjoyed.

Tuesday 27 September 2022 Richtersveld Wilderness Camp to Vanrhynsdorp Caravan Park

Early morning reflections – Richtersveld Wilderness Camp

We left Richtersveld Wilderness Camp at 8:30 am and made our way to Springbok where we had breakfast. We then continued to Vanrhynsdorp Caravan Park and arrived at around 3:30 pm. It is hot and dry here.

After the long drive, we did not feel like cooking so we went to the camp’s restaurant – ZAR – for dinner. It is very popular with the locals and the food is fantastic. ZAR stands for Zuid Afrika Restaurant

Alec had Chicken Schnitzel, Cathy had Sirloin with bacon and cheese sauce, Earl and I had Sirloin with cheese, onion and spinach sauce

Tomorrow, Cathy and Alec will return to Napier but the Earl and I will continue to Langebaan and spend two nights at Leentjiesklip Caravan Park. We will be visiting a friend who lives in Langebaan before making our way back to Struisbaai.

Thanks for following along on our journey.

Richtersveld Wilderness Camp

Saturday 24 September 2022

We were up by 7:30 this morning. The sun was shining but the air was chilly.   As I mentioned before the Northern Cape is having a water crisis and load shedding does not help the situation.   Although the electricity was on this morning when I got to the showers there was no hot water!    Not a pleasant start to the day.  After a warming cup of coffee, we packed up and were on the road just after 8:30. 

Our first stop was Springbok where we stopped for breakfast, to shop and to refuel.  We were amused to see an enterprising young man with his carwash kit.   I asked him if he would mind me taking a photo. He looked doubtful but I offered him some cash which he gratefully accepted.  He told me he needed funds for his baby who was not doing well.

Our breakfast, Springbok Café, is an old favourite of Cathy and Alec.  Every time they pass this way they pop into this novel place.  The dining area is still in the style of a sixties diner and it serves excellent toasted sandwiches and boerewors with your bacon and eggs.  The attached shop is very interesting and sells a variety of crafts, books and semi-precious stones!  It is decorated with memorabilia and old photographs making it fun to browse around.

The scenery on our route was quite dramatic too. It is very dry in this part of the world. Nothing grows on the rocky mountains and some areas could easily be mistaken for The Moon or Mars.

However, near the Orange River, it becomes quite green and we passed a few wine farms too.

The road to the Richtersveld Wilderness Camp is quite corrugated so we let down our tyres.  It seemed to take forever to get there but we made it by 2 pm. Our campsite is awesome We have two but have put both caravans on one and parked the vehicles on the other.   The view of the river is delightful.   We spent the afternoon sitting on the shady bank, reading and watching the birds.  I took a short walk and the Earl threw a line in but it is very hot on the jetty. 

Campsite 9 -Sunbird
The Orange River
Looking across The Orange River to Namibia

For supper, although it was Heritage Day, we did not braai! Instead, Cathy made chicken wraps which were delicious. Please don’t judge – we are proudly South African, but after our boerewors breakfast in Springbok, we were not in the mood for more.

On route here and at the camp we saw some lovely birds.

Swallow-tailed Bee-eater
White-fronted Bee-eater
Mountain Wheatear
Familiar Chat
Karoo Thrush

We are on the border between South Africa and Namibia but can only receive WiFi from Namibia which means we need to switch to roaming if we want to use our Vodacom Data. However, we can get free WiFi at the campsite. It is weak and when there is loadshedding we can’t get it at all. Because of this posting a blog is difficult and uploading photographs is very slow. Today is 26 September and I am only now able to post 24 September’s Blog. Thank you for your patience. More to follow as coms become stronger.

Niewoudville to Kamieskroon

Thursday 22 September 2022 Travelling Day

This morning I was up extra early. It was not as cold as the previous few days so I took the opportunity to wash my hair.

“Don’t get up until I’m done,” I told my darling hubby. “There’s plenty of time to prepare for departure.” He likes to be the first ready and hates to keep people waiting. So what happens today? Our travelling companions beat us to it by at least five minutes!

“We’re late!” complained my beloved and of course, Cath and Alec thought this was very funny!

What a gorgeous day it turned out to be. The sun shone brightly and the temperature got up to 25 degrees C. The road was fairly free of traffic and once again the scenery too beautiful to describe.

Vanrhyn’s Pass
Gecko 109
Typical Karoo Koppie

We stopped at Vanrhynsdorp Caltex Express Stop for breakfast. The shop has a takeaway facility but they have tables inside and outside where you can sit and enjoy your meal. The coffee is excellent. The others ordered toasted egg and bacon but I decided on a chicken mayo croissant which was to die for. The shop sells all sorts of goodies too. We were tempted to overspend but ended up just getting what no South African can resist – biltong.

Parking at Caltex Express Stop
Shop and Take-away

As we neared Kamieskroon we saw more and more wildflowers growing in the veld and next to the road. Our campsite, Kroonlodge is lovely and outside each caravan site is a tiny wildflower garden. The sites are quite small so we were super grateful for our movers!

Arriving at Kroon Lodge
A very pretty, well-maintained caravan park and lodge
Each site has its own kitchen and braai
The Earl gets the caravan in with remote control movers

We were disappointed to be told that we would not be allowed to use the washing machines. Cathy had asked less than a week ago if laundry facilities were available and she was assured that there certainly were. But on arrival, we were told that water restrictions were in place and that we could only shower and because the supply relies on pumps this could only be when the electricity was on. At the moment the country is having Stage 5 load-shedding with the electricity off three times a day; twice for periods of 2.5 hours and one of 4.5 hours. We feel strongly that they should have informed us of the water restrictions before we confirmed our booking. Because of this, we have decided to leave here a day earlier than planned and move on to Richtersveld Wilderness Camp on the Orange River where we are assured there is no water shortage.

23 September 2022 An Exciting Drive to Hondeklipbaai

At about 9:30 this morning we set off from Kammieskroon and drove about 115km to Hondeklipbaai. Most of our route was on dirt roads over a rugged mountain pass and through the Namaqua National Park. The scenery was spectacular and we once again enjoyed the Spring flowers still growing in profusion.

Imagine living in the middle of nowhere

We drove on the rough roads for a while but after the corrugations made things a tad uncomfortable we stopped the vehicles and reduced the tyre pressure. This made all the difference.

The scenery was spectacular and we once again enjoyed the Spring flowers still growing in profusion.

How does a plant grow out of a rock!
More beauty

We also saw some wildlife

The vehicles spooked this klipspringer and he raced off over the rocks at top speed – too fast for a decent photograph
Cathy alerted us to a ‘unicorn’ Sorry, I mean a Gemsbok (Oryx) with one horn.
Quiver trees dotted the mountainside
This steenbok was full of the joys of spring
Stunning view
Spring flowers were delightful
The Ford handled the steep pass
Scary near the edge

We arrived at Hondeklipbaai just before 2 pm and stopped at “Dop en Kreef” for a pub lunch. Translation for my overseas readers – Dop – alcoholic beverage. Kreef – Crayfish or lobster. Fortunately, they served more than just Kreef at the unholy price of R400! Actually one of the Kreef dishes was R600. Instead, Alec and Cathy had fish and chips and Earl had a hake and calamari platter. I settled for smoked chicken and chickpea salad. The portions were huge and not expensive. You’ve got to love these hidden places for their passion to feed people. Yes, the service was slow but we enjoyed the view and the break from driving. It was just after 3 pm when we left and made our way home on a much shorter route. The dirt road was a good one and it wasn’t long before we hit the tar road.

Hondeklipbaai was once a busy port for transporting diamonds from the mines in the area. Now it is pretty derelict and deserted
Admiring the view and waiting for food
Dop and Kreef Restaurant
Life is a little slower here.

A Visit to Namaqualand

Sunday 18 September 2022 Home to The Baths Citrusdal

This morning just before 9 am The Earl and I, towing Gecko 81 left Struisbaai while Cathy and Alec, towing Gecko 109 left Napier to meet each other at Stormsvlei Turn-off to begin the first leg of our trip to Namaqualand. The weather was cool but sunny and we were in good spirits and looking forward to another caravanning trip together. As we travelled the picturesque route to Robertson it clouded over and we had a few showers of rain. Our first stop was at Christina’s Bistro on the Van Loveren Wine Estate. The temperature was a cool 13 degrees C but we were warmly greeted by our waitron and shown to a fireside table. The Earl and I had Eggs Benedict and Cath and Alec enjoyed Christina’s special breakfast providing the best of everything – eggs, bacon, sausage, hashbrowns etc.

Two Geckos parked at Van Loverens

Feeling fortified with good coffee and food we continued. The clouds cleared and the rain stopped but it was still quite chilly when we stopped at Picketburg to refuel and then at Kardoesie to buy some biltong. We decided not to have refreshments at the restaurant as we were almost at our destination. By the time we arrived at The Baths, Citrusdal the weather had warmed up a tad. Our campsite, number 22, is spacious and takes the two caravans easily. After setting up and having a cup of tea, we headed for the hot pool. It was awesome wallowing in the healing spring water. Afterward, we decided to pop into the restaurant to book a table for dinner. It’s a good thing we did as we were informed that they were closing at six and were only doing takeaway meals till then. It was already five o’clock so we sat down for a G&T and ordered chicken salad to go. Had we come at six we would have been too late and as we had nothing defrosted it could have ended badly!

Arriving at The Baths, Citrusdal

Monday, 19 September 2022 – The Baths to Groenrivier, Niewoudville

Once again we enjoyed a picturesque drive to Niewoudville. We stopped at the Engen One Stop to have breakfast at their Wimpy. They had rather a cute display outside.

View from the top of Vanrhyn’s Pass

We arrived at Groenrivier at lunchtime. Our lovely sites are called Hadeda A and Hadeda B. Each has its own kitchen and bathroom as well as a shared Lapa which had a lovely open hearth for braaing and keeping warm in the evenings. The facilities are basic but clean and neat.

The Lapa
The fireplace in the Lapa

Our hostess visited us on site and offered us a pamphlet with a map and photos of the flowers we might see. It is a bit late in the season for flowers but we were assured that with a bit of effort we would find some.

We set up camp and made ourselves comfortable but did not go out again. The camp dogs entertained us or did we entertain them by obeying their commands to throw sticks which they willingly retrieved. Their most obedient servant, was, of course, The Earl!

It was lovely to be protected from the cold while we sat in the Lapa and enjoyed a lovely braai

Tuesday 20 September 2022 Niewoudville – A Day amongst the flowers

It was very cold last night and we woke to very low temperatures this morning but the sun was out and it warmed up as the day wore on.

After breakfast, we made our way to Matjiesfontein Farmstall’s flower route. We paid R50 each to drive around the flower fields and it was well worth it. In spite of it being the end of the season, we were impressed with what we saw. We were advised by the owner to get out and walk around to get a close look at the different types of flowers growing together. This was lovely for those closeups.

A Gecko owner cannot help photographing one of its own species
Matjiesfontein Farm Stall and Restaurant
Isn’t this cute

We took hundreds of photographs but none do justice to the experience we had enjoying the flowers.

Some birds also managed to pop into the photographs.

Afterwards we indulged in coffee and melktert at the lovely little restaurant. Imagine having in a house like this in the good old days.

Love the tumbleweed decorations

21 September – The Quiver Tree Forest

Today we had a really awesome day. It was considerably warmer and we began the day by sitting in the sun to enjoy our morning coffee and later a quick cereal breakfast. One of the camp dogs turned up for a game of fetch too.

Taken by Cathy

Namaqualand has some lovely scenery which we drank in as we drove to and from the Quiver Tree Forest.

Typical Koppie seen in Namaqualand

I have seen scattered quiver trees before but today we visited Gannabos, the biggest quiver tree forest in the southern hemisphere. The quiver tree or “Kokerboom” usually grows detached but can be seen growing together too. In fact, this plant is not a tree but a type of aloe. The Bushmen and Hottentot tribes used to make their quivers for carrying their arrows out of the tough yet pliable bark and branches of the Kokerboom hence its name.

After spending some time with the quiver trees we went in search of more wildflowers but only found small patches here and there.

Along the road, someone who is really fed up with litterbugs put up this warning.

Loosely translated – To the pig who throws his litter on the road – If I catch you, you are going to sh*t yourself.

We were sad to see litter in some places and one wonders what induces people to spoil such a beautiful environment.

This lovely scene brought us great pleasure

After enjoying our day we returned to camp. The Earl excelled himself in cooking us ox-tail and veggies for dinner. A perfect end to a lovely day.

Share Your World 5 September 2022

Once again this week, Pensitivity100, is asking the questions. Here are my answers.

  1. Do you prefer tea, coffee or juice first thing in the morning?

Definitely coffee. Hot, strong, black without sugar.

2.  When it comes to food, what is your favourite smell?

Braai – no other cooking smells as good.

Braai Master at Work

3.  Do you prefer a take-out or dining in a restaurant?

I prefer to go to a restaurant. If we don’t cook ourselves we don’t want to clean up either. You need to wait for take-out anyway so why not just wait at the table and eat hot food straight away. On a road trip, stopping to eat at a diner or coffee shop means you will take a decent break from driving.

4.  If you are hosting a party, do you prepare the food yourself, get caterers in or ask everyone to bring something for the table?

Before we retired my husband and I would cater dinner parties for up to twelve people ourselves. We still enjoy entertaining small dinner parties but now we tend to limit the numbers. When it’s a braai or a fish dish, the Earl does the cooking with me helping with side dishes. When Greek Lamb is on the menu then I am totally in charge!

For a big part of more than twelve, we would definitely get caterers.

One of those wonderful dinner parties when we had a big enough table!


What has been the highlight of your week over the last seven days?

We are really lucky that without having to drive too far we have some good restaurants that serve excellent food at reasonable prices. Last week we enjoyed a great lunch at “Agulhas Seafoods” with our friend Carl.

Good wine, awesome company
And superb ushi

Share Your World – 29 August 2022

Once again Di from Pensitivity101 is hosting Share Your World and she asks some lovely questions.

  1. Which of the following could you do without? TV, Computer, Mobile Phone.

Wow – we have become so used to all of the above. South Africa only received television in 1975 (I was 23 years old) and so radio was the only tech we had for entertainment. My father was one of the first amongst our friends to buy a set – a Telefunken with the PAL colour system. People used to joke that it was called such as all your pals would gather at your house if they didn’t own their own set! Everybody was terrified that their children would not learn to read because of television and parents imposed strict rules to limit viewing! Well, our oldest went from Grade 1 to Grade 12 with television in the house and although she loved TV she was also an avid reader of books. Her class was to go through their whole school career with the evils of television! They all turned out fine!

But back to the question – which one can I do without? Television for sure. I would not miss it as any entertainment can be obtained on phone or computer. I adore my laptop and prefer editing photographs, Googling and writing emails, diaries and blogs on it rather than on my phone but if I had to I could cope without it. I can’t imagine life today without a mobile phone. It is so multifunctional that in today’s world you would be hard-pressed to do without it.

2.  Do you have a lot of old photographs in a box, or did you put them in albums?

Most are in albums. Many are in a box but I have scanned and saved some to an external drive. .

One of those photos in a box (and scanned in) – My grandmother with three of her four children. My mom and her younger brother. Her baby sister on Gran’s lap, Mom must have been abour 17 at the time.

3.  What was the first thing you bought for yourself when you started work?

I cannot remember but I know I felt really rich when I received it. It didn’t take long for me to realise that I wasn’t.

4.  What is the biggest thing you have bought that did not require finance?

My first car- an Austin Mini – cost me R400 in 1977. It was second-hand and I paid cash for it. I drove it for about five years.


Catch Cook Market – All This Weekend

This weekend Catch Cook, the restaurant at Struisbaai’s working harbour, is hosting a market in their sea sand section. Many local crafters and small businesses are exhibiting their wares. There is a roaring fire burning where gourmet boerewors rolls are being made and you can order drinks from the bar too.

The Market opened at noon today and the Earl and I took a stroll down to see what it was all about. I don’t think all the stalls were open yet but it was well worth the visit.

These hangings would brighten up any home.
Some lovely pictures to purchase
Boerewors Rolls to die for
Mine came with avo, fetta and bacon!
The Earl could not resist buying a jar of raw honey
Cute knitted toys
Quite adorable
Handmade jewellry
I might go back tomorrow when the Earl is not looking!
T-shirts to remind you of the Deep South of Africa
Some wonderful shell art
And excellent wood craft
Such lovely furniture
Relishes from the Little Karoo
Somehow I forgot to take a photo of the wine tasting stall – but I did buy their olive products – oil, olives and tapinade and no South African can resist Droëwors (Dried Sausage)
I was drawn to the leather bag stall and couldn’t resist getting, just a tiny one, at an excellent price
Love my new bag

The Market is open all weekend unti 14h00 on Sunday. The weather is sunny so why not pop over to take a look?

Share Your World – 22 August 2022

Once again Di from Pensitivity101 is hosting Share Your World. Here are my answers.

1.  Do you have family photographs on display in your main living room?

Not in the living room but I have a few in the braai room. One of them is featured below. It is of my parents and siblings all together and was taken at my parents’ 50th Wedding anniversary in 1998.

Big Brother, Me, Mom, Dad, Baby Brother, Little Sister

2.  What was the best vehicle you owned?
This could be a pushbike as a kid, your first car, a motorcycle, or something else.

The best vehicle I ever owned was a Volkwagen Caravelle TDI 4 Motion. When our children were growing up we had two Toyota Hi-Aces one after the other and I loved those too. The Caravelle came after selling my Toyota Camry.

Hubby asked what I would like to replace the Camry and as we still had two adult daughters and two grandsons aged 6 and 7 living with us, I immediately said, “A Hi-Ace, so we can transport everybody in comfort!”

Well, we shopped around and then found that a brand new Caravelle had come onto the market. It had all the bells and whistles that I desired. What an amazing car! We kept it for 10 years and I still miss it! It served us well. It was a seven-seater with plenty of packing space. Every year six of us travelled in comfort to spend Christmases with our family in KZN. The Earl and I loved using it to take friends to game reserves before we started caravanning. I used it to transport kids to sports matches and outings. It was just the best vehicle, anyone, with a big family and active lifestyle, could wish for. We made some amazing memories with that vehicle. The Hi-Aces were, for the same reasons, great too but the Caravelle was just a tad more luxurious. Also, we drove it for 10 years – the longest we’d ever kept a car. In 2015 we retired to Struisbaai so we no longer needed a people carrier. We now only have one car, a Ford Everest, which is perfect for towing a caravan. It is also a very comfortable car, can seat seven people although not as comfortably as the minibus, and has plenty of packing space which we need for caravanning. I miss the Caravelle but feel privileged to have a good car and a caravan to take its place.

Me at the wheel of the Caravelle (2005)

3.  Did you pass your driving test the first time?

Yes, I did. But it was 45 years ago and my mini-skirt might have helped!

4.  Does loud music from a neighbour or passing cars annoy you?

I am fairly tolerant of noise. If my neighbours are having a party, I don’t mind the loud music. I don’t mind too much if dogs bark or howl from time to time as long as it’s not constant. If it is I would say something and try to get the neighbour to do something about it. I have to admit, that has never happened. Perhaps I have been lucky with neighbours. I have never lived in a place where heavy traffic has passed by but where I lived before, we could hear police sirens, ambulances etc, screaming a short distance away. This did not happen too frequently and when it did I was pleased that whatever emergency was occurring, it was receiving the correct response.

My daughter deals with a noisy neighbourhood by wearing an eyemask and earplugs when she goes to sleep.

Of course, you could always move!

What has made you smile over the last seven days?

A Rainbow after the rain.

This cute little boy.

Oops, he’s lost his shoe.

Share Your World – 15 August 2022

Here are my answers to this week’s SYW hosted by pensitivity101 for the time being.

1. Do you prefer to live in a single-story property like a bungalow, a high-rise apartment, or a house?

I lived in a double story in my teens and it was fine. I have lived in a flat that had stairs and no lift and that was fine too. Most other places have been single-story houses and they were perfect. We have downsized since retiring and we have a perfect little home in a quiet street with a sheltered, enclosed garden. It used to be our holiday home so holds many very happy memories. It looks very different now as we have done many alterations so that it now serves our needs perfectly. Our other home is, of course, our caravan. Who can ask for anything more?

My Humble Home

2. If you won a large amount of money on the lottery, would you want publicity or keep things quiet and low key?

I would keep it low-key and secretly help people who I know could use some extra cash.

3. How do you like your eggs? (No, this is not a trick question)

(Unferilised? LOL)

I enjoy eggs and eat them every day. My choice depends on where I am and how I feel at the time. At home, they would be boiled, scrambled, or fried. Sometimes an omelet is the order of the day. Eggs Benedict is my favourite. Today I enjoyed the best I’ve had in a long time at Table Cafe, Lifestyle Centre, Bredasdorp – Western Cape, South Africa. I asked them to leave off the English muffin and to serve the eggs on top of the mushrooms. What a treat!

Not the ones I had this morning

4. If cars were no longer available, what would be your choice of transport?

A broomstick would be good! But seriously – I wouldn’t mind riding a bike. I don’t ride now because the cars scare me! So perhaps with no cars about it would be more fun. A horse-drawn carriage would also be fine but where would I keep the horse? If cars were gone would we still have buses and trains or would the stagecoach return?

I am grateful for fabulous friends. It was wonderful having our friends Tony and Sharon visit us for a couple of days. We have been friends since we were young adults. The weather was chilly but the company warm, the coversation stimulating and the outings fun!

Visiting the Southern Tip of Africa

Share Your World 8 August 2022

Melanie is not well right now so Pensitivity is asking the SYW questions today. Thank you, Di.

When you’re on holiday, do you prefer self-catering or a hotel/B&B?

My favourite type of holiday is visiting game reserves in South Africa. The best and most inexpensive way is to camp or caravan. We enjoy many trips with our off-road Gecko caravan and of course we self-cater. Our caravan is equipped with everything we need and it is very comfortable. There is nothing better than sitting outdoors in a game park, glass of wine in hand and watching the sun go down. Bliss!

Home from Home

When travelling abroad (not since COVID) I am not too fussy and will seek something cheap and cheerful. It could be a hotel or a B&B. The next best thing to caravanning, though, is cruising. Once you’ve boarded and unpacked there is nothing more to worry about. Entertainment is free and all meals are catered! It’s just the best way to explore foreign shores without worrying about multiple flights, train trips or car hire.

Our cruise ship Costa Victoria – Seychelles

 Do you have a favourite meal you cook for yourself or order when out?

I love to order what I am unlikely to cook or make myself e.g. Sushi. However, I do like to cook Bobotie and I order it at restaurants that I know do it well. Also anything Greek – moussaka, spanakapita, dolmades. None of these is easily available in the restaurants in my neck of the woods. But when we travel, that is what I go for.


In the current fuel crisis, have you made a conscious effort not to use the car unless absolutely necessary?

We put off a long road trip to Namibia because of the fuel crisis. Living where we do and being retired means we don’t need to use the car every day. We walk to the beach and harbour and to our favourite coffee shop.

If you were to compare yourself to a plant, what would you be?

I asked my husband what plant I am most like and he said – a daisy because they’re seasonal. I’m not sure what that’s supposed to mean! But African Daisies are in flower in Spring, Summer and Autumn. And I am not at my happiest in winter so maybe he’s right!


I am lucky to have a lot of happy memories from my childhood. Please share one from yours.

I have many happy memories of childhood. I was lucky enough to have had three siblings, lots of cousins and a big extended family. As kids, we were free to roam and play without adult supervision. We swam in the sea, climbed mountains and rode bikes all on our own and nobody came to any harm. It was a different time. My grandparents were awesome and now as a grandparent myself I have tried to be that kind of grandmother to my grandchildren.

Some years ago when the grandkids were still small