Here are my answers to this week’s questions posed by Sparks
In your opinion, do May/December (older partner with much younger partner) romances ever work?
Yes, of course it can work but I don’t believe it is something that should be the norm especially if the age gap is more than fifteen years. There are things to be considered. If you are very young and energetic with plans to live an active and adventurous life don’t expect your older partner to be raring to go with you. He/she might be able for a few years but then the ravages of old age are going to set in. Having said that some oldies can be way more energetic than some youngsters. Also if you’re the younger partner, be prepared to become nurse and purse when your octogenarian becomes frail!
What physical action or gesture do you find romantic?
What is your idea of a romantic dinner?
Picture the scene – a calm, warm summer evening on a tropical beach, the candlelit table with a white cloth set at the edge of the water. Champagne and seafood served by a butler, barefoot but dressed in bow tie and tails, my love and I in our finery, enjoying the moonlight when Lady in Red is sung by Chris de Burgh himself and we dance cheek to cheek on the sand.
Well, that’s the dream but something similar will do.
Is ‘love’ a real ‘thing’ or merely a physical chemical response and brain activity pulling our emotional strings?
Love is real. Of course there are physical chemical responses in the brain etc but it’s still real. True love comes when you find a partner who you can live with forever in spite of their faults. Love is a verb. You have to do love as well as feel it. When you can live through troubles, hardships and dramas and are drawn closer together through them, then you have true love. It takes two to have true love. It is definitely not a one-sided thing. If your love is not reciprocated, get away fast – it won’t last.
GRATITUDE SECTION (as always optional)
How do you show your loved ones that you love them?
I’m sure they know because I’m so nice to them but just in case – I tell them!